REQUEST NO #15

“Please be honest and tell me when you don´t have enough money. For me, time with you is much important and valuable than money. I am happy if you play a game with me, not if you just buy me a toy. “

At parental relationship breakdown we try to give our children as much as possible, just to mitigate impact of breakdown on the child. This can make us more stressed, spending less time with our child and search way how to more and more money. We are then in a circle from what we cannot get away.

Despite we live at, the children need really our time and our presence then our finances. Sure, they will be happy if they get a little present from us, but they are much happier if they can spend quality time with us. For example, I started playing games with my children regularly, and they are so delighted about it, therefore they do not miss even a tablet and they keep asking about whether and when we will be playing again. At these activities we have fun together and we create memories that remain with the children at their life. This does not cost us anything, just our time.

The children are sensitive enough to feel when something goes wrong. For example, financial stress we feel and does not want to tell. However, if we do not say, the children start thinking about what might be wrong and whether this is their fault. So, it is better to talk to them adequately to their age about all issues just to make them sure that this stress is not caused by them.