REQUEST NO #17

“Please leave at my life as many things as they used to be before you separated. It starts by my bedroom, and finishes by little things I used to do alone with my Dad or my Mum.”

Every change brings fear and uncertainty even for an adult. How a child can react? It is necessary to maintain certain things in children´s life. We cannot lie to them that nothing will be changed, if the parents separate. But it is good to remain certain assurances at children´s life, to enable them to get used to the situation as well as they can.

Firstly, it is important to create safe space for the parents to spend quality time with the child alone, to live new situation and to set up a new contact. Just think about how difficult it is to deal with parental relationship breakdown for you. For the child, this is even harder, as the child cannot make anything about it, as he or she is fully dependent on decisions of the parents. Let´s make the maximum for the child to lift the burden he or she carries. Let´s remember the own story or story of our friends, how long were they trying to get their parents back together. And how long it took them to accept that they will never be together anymore.