REQUEST NO #19

“Be fair to new partner of the second parent. I have to get well to this person as well. And it is easier if you will not snoop jealously. It would be better for me if you find soon somebody you live. You will not be so rude to each other then.”

The new partner has legal right to bring up the child with the second parent. It is natural if they live together in one household. However, it can be stressful for the child, if he or she feels that the second parent cannot get well to this new partner. The child is under pressure from both sides, shortly after he or she will be looking for an escape from this situation.

It is better not to ask what the second parent do, not to label him with any nicknames, not to talk about him or her in a rude manner. If you do not agree with something, it is better to have a chat and try to get an agreement. Mediation, where all adults can meet, can help again, and you can find ways how to work together at child´s raising.

The child can feel positively the situation at the point that there are two complete families, four grandparents and if we all make a good job, the child can manage the situation very well. It is only about the attitude of the adults and their cooperation.

There are families who spend events together and it works. Sometimes time and hard work of each adult is needed, but this is a vision for “a good breakdown” of the parents. So, cooperation, communication, spending time together is really in the best interest of your child.