REQUEST NO #5

“Don´t be sad when I am leaving to see my second parent. Also, please don´t think I will have a badtime next days. I would be with you both all the time most like. But I cannot tear myself in twopieces – just only because you did this with our family.”

The child still loves both parents after the parental breakdown. The child wants to spend time withboth parents, however due to decision of the parent this is not possible. It is important not to involvethe child to parental conflict. If the second parent raised the child up as well, he or she has parental responsibility and competence to raise the child further.

Please try to stress the child as less as possible. Lets not say the child that you will miss him and thatyou don’t know whether the child will be ok with the second parent. These fears should be solvedbetween adults, without presence of the child. Children are stressed for nothing by concerns anddecisions of adults, and have to solve changes that happened in their life and that has impact on hisor her life assurance.

If we are afraid whether the second parent is able to manage the situation, lets solve it with help ofprofessionals in mediation, pair or individual therapy. If questions are legal, lets find a good familyattorney, but please do not burden our children.